Health and Well-Being Month: Week Four – Day Three
Today’s focus is all about work and maintaining the dream: ridding ourselves of limitations and having a healthy work-life balance.
Are you – like me – a workaholic? I often use work as an escape. It gets me out of my head. I become focused on the task which means I don’t have to face aspects of my life that I don’t like. But, let me tell you, this can only be maintained for so long. Recently my mind has fought back and I am now seeking help because I feel so out of control. I feel close to a major growth, while at the same time I feel very close to a breakdown. I am in the middle of learning I am not limited, by which I mean I understand the logic and I understand the intelligence of it, however, the feeling and the knowing of this information is yet to make itself known.
Oh, I should point out that while I do like my job, it’s not entirely what I want to spend the rest of my life doing. Although there are aspects of it I would like to carry through.
Let’s ask ourselves the following questions:
- What impact does being a workaholic have on our life?
- Are you using work to escape?
- Does your job give you a sense of fulfilment and satisfaction?
- What is your ideal job? How can you take steps to get there?
- What makes you feel limited? What steps can you take to move away from those limitations?
I’d like to talk a bit about these limitations. Most of us believe that we cannot do what we love for a living. This is a load of crap. We can do whatever we want for a living, we just have to choose to see that there are NO LIMITATIONS to what we can achieve.
There is one grand lie–that we are limited. The only limits we have are the limits we believe. – Wayne Dyer
Alan Watts asks “What would you like to do if money were no object?” and so with this question we are lead to the basic principle of asking ourselves what it is that we truly desire.
What do you truly desire from life?
If money were no issue and you truly believed you were limitless (ie. you believed completely in yourself), what would you do with your life?
Don’t think about what you would have done – the past is gone. It’s never coming back. You learned a lot, you made some mistakes, but you’re here, now. What would you do NOW.
Don’t think of what you will do. The future is never here. It’s not guaranteed. Each future moment becomes the present now so we are never catching up with our futures. We are always in the now.
What do you truly desire from life? What would you do NOW?
If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you’ll spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing the thing you don’t like doing, which is stupid. – Alan Watts
Is desire true if the end result fulfils a role expected of you in society and not your true deepest natural desire? This question calls for us to focus on US and who we are, not who society tells us to be. We are born into conditioned cultures who may have the best of intentions, but ultimately we are constantly told who we should be, and what we should be doing with our lives.
Are you in a job right now that you loathe and that brings you great sadness, and yet you stick it out because it’s “the right thing to do” or because you don’t want to disappoint anyone or let them down?
Look at your work life with an honest eye. If you feel something needs changing, change it. Remember these changes don’t have to be dramatic changes right away.
Taking small steps with awareness can sometimes achieve greater outcomes than big steps taken in haste. For example, maybe don’t quit your job right away (unless you definitely feel this is right for you), but start looking for jobs in the area that you’d like to work. It may mean starting from an intern/apprentice position, but it’ll be worth it if you wake up excited to go to work every morning.
It’s worth it if it makes you happy.
Be happy. Be you.