Letters to Let Go
Time: 45 minutes per letter
More writing today! I’m going to get you to focus on both the negative and positive. The negative will be released, and the positive will rejuvenate. It’s not as scary as it sounds, I promise!
So, what’s this letter? Well, it’s two letters. I know – as if one wasn’t enough and I’ve given you two to write! There is a method to my madness!
We’ll start with eliminating the negativity, and end with positive rejuvenation to see how accentuating the positive uplifts you. This is not about dwelling on the past – it’s about releasing it.
Releasing stored negativity is essential to maintaining and building your healthy mindset. We need to ensure that the ways we do this are safe, and writing them down allows you to do that.
The first letter I’d like you to write is a letter to someone who has hurt you, or take a disempowering moment in your life and re-write that story with you as the hero.
You don’t have to send these letters by the way!
In this letter I want you to write down how this person hurt you or how the situation disempowered you, how they/it made you feel at the time and how it’s still making you feel now. Write down how it has held you back and what you would like to say to this person that you never got the chance to say. Really let yourself loose with this one. This is about getting these feelings out to allow you the chance to move on, release the guilt, the resentment, the negativity, and to forgive yourself for holding onto the hurt. As you forgive yourself, forgive this person for their past behaviour. They no longer hold chains around you. Don’t hold on to what is in the letter. Let it go. It no longer serves you. You get to decide what happens in your life. You’re the storyteller and creator.
Below I have provided a template to get you started.
I am angry/upset/fuming because….The situation you put me in really hurt me because….and it has impacted my life by….
I forgive you for…I recognise that you behaved this way because….I am here to tell you that you no longer hold power over me. I have given myself permission to let you go. I am ready to move forward and will no longer be holding myself back.
You made me feel…..Throughout my life these feelings have influenced my choices regarding…I now choose to feel good about myself. You do not have power over my mind or my body. I am free of you and free to be myself. In writing this to you I am choosing to make positive steps in becoming a healthier, stronger, happier version of myself. I thank you for all you have taught me, but now I let you go.”
You can write this how you want. Don’t hold back. Swear. Write in massive letters. Let the words scream on the page if you need them to.
Once you’ve finished it’s up to you what you do with the letter.
“You may not be able to control someone’s negative behaviour, but you can control how long you participate in it.”
The second letter is what I’m going to call a ‘positive pronouncement’ to someone who has loved and supported you through thick and thin.
Tell them how their presence has influenced and impacted your life in a positive way, and how much you value them.
List all the positive qualities they embody and tell them how this has inspired you. Don’t forget to write about your own positive qualities – tell this person about yourself. Tell them of the strength you have, and how through their support you found your courage to survive. Tell them how you’re evolving as a person and that you are taking a more active and powerful stance in your life. You’ve become empowered and they can expect to see that transferred into your life. Don’t be afraid to blow your own trumpet! This person will have seen these qualities in you long ago and will be happy to hear that you’re realising it for yourself.
Writing this letter will start to rid the negative from your mind and replace it with positives. Your brain is being re-wired to make new pathways that focus on the good things in your life.
It takes practice, but you’ll get there! I have faith in you 🙂
Anytime a negative thought arises, think about the positive letter you wrote and remind yourself of the empowering words and qualities you have. You are strong, capable, courageous and confident. Let yourself and the world see it. This is your time!
Be happy. Be you.