Lately, I’ve been trying to consciously follow the synchronicities in my life and get into the flow and since I started reading Deepak Chopra’s The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success I’ve had non-stop signs suggesting I just be.
Then this morning – after I actively chose to spend a few days in silence and meditation over Easter (it’s my time off work so that’s when I can fully indulge and commit to being a part of it) – I done my tarots cards and to quote Cilla Black, ‘surprise, surprise!’ all my cards were about just being and finding my truth and not being afraid to speak it.
So my post today is asking for you to incorporate some ‘be-time’ in your ‘me-time’ schedule (Another really bad sentence for my regular readers 😉 thank me later! Haha)
Here are steps to just be!
Seven Steps to Stillness
Turn off the TV, turn your phone off, put down the book, turn off the radio – I promise you, it will still be there when you return! They key here is to have NO DISTRACTIONS. It’s hard I know. I often fall victim to checking my phone for messages I know I haven’t received.
Sit comfortably and relax.
Breathe in deeply through your nose, and out through your mouth for several breaths – or more if it feels good! Find what feels right for you.
Become aware of your breath. Really concentrate on how it feels going into your body and coming out. It will bring your awareness to any tense areas throughout your body and then you can focus on relaxing them.
OPTIONAL, but recommended!
The breathing steps above are for relaxing your body and bringing your awareness into focus so you can connect to your higher self – I guess it’s a sort of basic meditation depending on your definition.
The meditation I’m referring to here that I’d like you to practise is Mindful Meditation. It allows you to practise observing any thoughts and feelings that arise as a way to train your mind to make positive, conscious decisions in every-day life, and to be aware of the choices you make.
Let the mental chatter and emotions flow. They’ve arisen for a reason: they need to be healed. Let it out, let it go, let yourself be free, let yourself forgive.
JUST BE with yourself in the silence.
The focus of this exercise is to learn how to listen to your inner silence and be with your inner stillness. It sounds similar to meditation. Meditation can help us FIND the stillness, and it helps our minds sift through the crap and filter what needs to be let go, and through that we allow the tumultuous waters of our inner dialogue and memories to gradually still.
You can have periods of extended silence if you feel it would be beneficial to you. This means none of the modern distractions being around, and living in silence for a day or two, or maybe a week, or even a few months! It is advised that it’s best to gradually increase the amount of time you spend in silence if you do want longer periods of silence. This is because it can be tough to be with yourself so totally, and so quickly. If you feel you’re up to it then by all means do it, but I would suggest on doing your research or booking into specialised silent retreats – especially if it’s your first time doing it. Also, don’t be afraid to let your friends and family know what you’re doing. Their support will be immensely helpful especially when you find yourself facing yourself.
At first you’ll probably think “What the hell is this? I don’t hear or feel any silence. All I can hear is my mind on overdrive!” That’s fine. That’s part of the process. Embrace that frustration and use it as an opportunity for growth in your journey of silence. It’s about learning to still your mind to fully embrace yourself as a conscious, spiritual being. Eventually your mind will exhaust itself and then…
Your mind will wonder why it enjoyed being so busy in the first place, and more than likely you won’t want to indulge in that kind of behaviour any longer.
It does take practise, especially having to tear ourselves away from our modern day technology and distractions. But it will be worth it. You’ll feel refreshed, regenerated and relaxed! And even better, you’ll be more in tune with the universe to manifest all the excellent situations and opportunities available to you.
Who wouldn’t want that?!
Once you’ve found the stillness and silence within by allowing yourself to just be, you will experience your true self and be free to receive the gifts of the universe.
I should add that don’t feel as though you have to spend hours and hours doing this. Some people think that we should spend at least two hours a day in silence and then add thirty minutes of meditation twice a day to our routine. WHAAAAAT?! Now for the majority of us, this isn’t possible, so my advice is to spend as long as you can give in silence. It is usually preferable to spend an hour or so practising this, but sometimes the other activities of life get in the way. Remember, each moment counts, and small drops of water still fill a bucket. It may take longer, but each drop is progress.
Don’t put yourself under any pressure, just let it flow.
Sometimes those spare five minutes you get while drinking your tea can be five minutes of ‘be-time’.
So, as the title suggests: JUST BE & DRINK TEA!
Be happy. Be you.